Mum and Dad – a new Avenue to walk down!

Being a parent is a scary thought. Nevertheless it is an exciting one with numerous hopes and expectations. From the choosing of a right and suitable name to the school that the child must fit into, is all a part of a great big responsibility. We had a choice about who we are going to marry and whether we are to or not have children and when they should be had. But the baby’s existence is not her choice at all. Nor does she have any say in picking her parents, siblings or even school. She’d just have to live with what she has, just like a shuffled pack of playing cards. Didn’t we all have that? Mere chance is what it all boils down to. Well at least to a great extent.

Parenting is probably one of the most difficult jobs and if I may dare say only the brave can courageously face it. Many parents today are preoccupied by tight schedules and busy career lives often leaving children to be attended to by grandparents and/or domestic aids leading to corrupt and mislead newer generations. A very unhealthy choice of most people who are not left with a choice at all. Just like many other aspects in our lives we are only given one chance to be parents and we can either make a brilliant job of it or neglect it altogether.

Why are grandparents and nannies not suitable to bring up kids?

Too difficult to say “no”

Grandpaprents tend to love the grandchildren fiercely. The often do not refuse their requests. Children hence learn to have their way all the time

Old age is catching up.

Grandparents may not be healthy enough to run around kids. Learning and teaching methods may be somewhat traditional and may differ from what is taught in school

Less feelings

The other extreme can be expected from those paid to take care of kids. They may either have less feelings or nothing at all unless it’s a very exceptional person. They may be unnecessarily rough or rude to the children. Good hygiene, health and good habits will almost never be a priority to them. Children may wrong uses of the language from those who don’t know it well enough. Servants may give children what they want or even a pinch or two to stop a long and annoying whine.

So what’s the healthiest option for bringing up kids without jeopardizing a booming career?

There’s hardly any solution for the above problem. Day care centers tried to minimize the issue however children’s craving for attention only gets worse. Kids need their parents to be around them. There are some work places that allow employees to bring in their kids and have special rooms and care takers for this purpose. An idea, pretty much worth exploring. The last resort is to try quitting from the job for at least a short period or to try working from home. It’s not easy to have additional work responsibilities at home with kids shouting around you. However when it comes to priorities in life, children should certainly come first. After all it’s a whole life to mould and once lost can never be found again!