All about the baby and a little more!

Monday, October 2, 2017

Ever since Moosa turned two he started to get a little difficult yet I feel he is far better than some of the other kids I see around. He loves to be cuddled and pampered. Not a fussy eater. I haven't been taking pictures. With baby number four on the way and things to be cleaned or cooked all the time, work never ends. I clean up before bed but still wake up to a mess and dirt sometimes and the cycle seems to never end. I'm trying to train the older ones to help out more but it doesn't always work. Habits are hard to create and maintain. At least the good ones are. J has been drawing a lot. H has been playing too many electronic games. He is just coming out of a nasty cough which Moosa has just caught. I'm so depressed sometimes and I wonder if its the hormones or something more. Anyway, October is here and the year will end soon... Hopefully baby will be born before my birthday. Ha Ha!

Saturday, September 23, 2017

We are often told how brave we are. We often given looks, advice or even sarcastic comments. When you have children, most of our life gets put on hold. It's really hard making sacrifices that make us unhappy. The struggle is real.

And now we have to battle technology on top of everything else. Homework is online and textbooks are interactive which is great but mum's need to shower and get out and cannot 190% percent supervise every move made by every child in the house.

You are supposed to adult so you can't cry it out. Laundry never ends. Dishes every day. Nothing ever stays clean long enough and you go to bed exhausted every night from the chores. I can only pray to God my to make it a little easier. Trying to breath though it all!

It's really really hard at times,  most of the time!

Thursday, August 24, 2017

I was so heart broken that moosa would be my last baby but alhmadelillah, I'm 18 weeks pregnant with another boy. While this has been a complicated pregnancy I am grateful that we are Alhamdeillah doing ok overall.

Monday, July 10, 2017

Preparing for Baby Number 4

Alhamdelillah, We are happy to announce the blessing of another baby to our family. We are expecting him or her insha Allah in January of 2018. A baby girl would be nice but of course a healthy baby is what is most important. Jannah wants a girl obviously because we have two boys.

Sunday, April 23, 2017

Cultivating a culture of chaos

As a family we always try to turn up on time for events and invitations. Yes inevitable last minute things do happen but we try to start early and leave room for any unexpected events, getting gas or closed roads. When we go late for everything we are teaching our kids that its ok to be late that its ok not to respect another person's time.'

If you want to have a generation that is productive and efficient then teach them to start on time. Life is time. Some people justify going late by saying that everyone is late or that the event will not start on time anyway... This is not good at all. All events should start on time. Specially ones that involve children. Let late comers pay the price. Waiting for them, only encourages them to be late next time.

Also if you are inviting people over try to give them a time that is both reasonable for you and works for them. Before you have your dinner guests over you could ask them what times work well for them and fix a mutually convenient time that does not stress either party. I don't like events that are set at an earlier time just so that people will come half our late. Time is life and respect it. Don't have some one wasting their life waiting for you!

Saturday, April 22, 2017

Grocery shopping with the kids can be a very good educational experience for them.

When taking the kids grocery shopping I try to have them work with a budget so that they can learn to spend according to their means. For example we tell them that they can get what they want as long as its within this range: say $5 or $7. If they don't find something for the allocated amount they learn to settle for less or do without it. This way they know they can't just get anything that costs any amount. They are usually allowed one snack per week and a drink or juice. Entertainment shopping which involves stuff like pokeman cards and fancy stationery or books can only be done a couple of times a year usually before festivals and special occasions. Its not about being able to afford but its about having self control, being financially intelligent and practically implementing math. Never avoid taking kids on a shopping spree that they can learn a lot from. Involve them. Get them to help. Get them to look for the best deals and before you know, they'll be doing your shopping for you. This can alsp be done together online.

They can also looks for earth friendly items that use less paper and plastic or use recyclable items.

Thursday, April 20, 2017

The Red light to nurse

One of the most difficult things fro me to do as a mother is to stop nursing my youngest. The very thought, brings me tears... He cant understand why he has to go through this and I cant explain it to him... I just have to let him cry it out and it is as hard for me as it is for him. He will be two in four more months. I try to remember the freedom that the weaning off gave me. Being able to go wherever  and wear whatever...

As people start enlarging their eyes when I tell them I'm still nursing my toddler, I feel sad. Its such a blessing... I would admire someone for their patience... People think its easy. Let me tell you, its not...

You almost never get a good night's rest
You are hot and sweaty
You are in pain even when you are not nursing
You have to hold another person who is pretty heavy and be sure not to drop them.
You have to work around a toddlers schedule and be able to interrupt any thing you do any time, for them
You are hungry or thirsty all the time
You are tired and nobody understands why, because they don't see you running a marathon
You hate those who make it trivial

So if you see someone who is selfless enough to nurse, stop and appreciate them for a minute. Encourage them and be happy for them. It is the least you could do!