All about the baby and a little more!

Sunday, March 5, 2017

Weaning off


Mothers may breastfeed their children two complete years for whoever wishes to complete the nursing [period]. Upon the father is the mothers' provision and their clothing according to what is acceptable. No person is charged with more than his capacity. No mother should be harmed through her child, and no father through his child. And upon the [father's] heir is [a duty] like that [of the father]. And if they both desire weaning through mutual consent from both of them and consultation, there is no blame upon either of them. And if you wish to have your children nursed by a substitute, there is no blame upon you as long as you give payment according to what is acceptable. And fear Allah and know that Allah is Seeing of what you do.

" Baqara 233

The painful process of weaning off is about to start... I have mixed feelings this time around. I would never get this chance again in my life. I wanted to adopt a child and nurse him or her but that might never happen.... all the contradiction about mahram....

Moosa's birth was the most difficult of the three... I also found that it brought about a special bond/ At times he is a very difficult baby/toddler. Very set with his ways. Last night we put him down without milk and it was very hard. He cried for a long time. He finally settled to some singing....

Once I stop nursing him he will forever be disconnected from em physically. He will no longer need me. So it is as difficult for me as it is for him... Its all he's known since the day he was born... he has to now give it up and I have to do everything I can to make him feel that I am not mad at him and that this is not a punishment. His sad cries melt my heart and I am usally on the verge of giving in but I have to be strong for both of our sakes. Once he cries there is no going back. He will eventually learn to sooth himself and to realize that mummy's ilk is no longer needed.... I am sad... more sad that this will be both the last time for him and for me.... I nursed Jannah for 19 months.... Haroon for 18  and Moosa is 18 1/2 now....

Someday when you grow up and read this Moosa, don't feel embarrassed, rather feel lucky that I was able to do it. Despite not being able to wear what I want, or go where I want... I have been able to enjoy the privilege Alhamdelillah!

Thursday, February 2, 2017

My Dear Bubbly Girl ... As you get older....

A very busy day ahead for me today... Laundry, dishes and cleaning piled up. Moosa is taking a nap and I have to write this for you.... You are a little over 9 years old and I want you to know...

8 years ago when Dad and I took you the children emergency unit in Wisconsin.... Yes we were over-reacting for nothing at all.... but let me tell you how I felt.

They said they want to do an xray. My heart was so heavy. My little 14 day old baby was being checked for everything. We wanted to go home but they didn't let us. We all stayed overnight with you, Umama, dad and I. It was a terrible night on December 24th 2007.

I love you more than ypu will ever understand. May be some day when you become a mother you will understand why I have to do what I do. You are a blessing. Every day we pray for you... to be a good person, to do well in school, to be the best you can be!

I love how you teach your brother
I love how polite and well behaved you are at school
I love it when you help me and give me massages
I love how you take such good care of Moosa
I love you so much... much more than you cna ever understand
and God loves you 70 times more than that!

Please be your best self honey!
Please be careful and have concern for others
Help others
Teach others
Love others
Don't shout at me
Don't hurt my feelings
I'm sorry if I have hurts yours
I truly am...
others have so much to do that sometimes we forget to sit down and enjoy the moment...
You understand, don't you sweet honey crunch?

Don't leave this world without making a positive difference in it!
Leave behind a legacy...

My first and only girl ....

I Love you!

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Even though we cannot make sense of the mad craziness of it all, we have to cling to the belief that beneath it all, is always something good.

Friday, January 27, 2017

Habu Babu

You turned 6 and where was I?

On your third birthday we were arriving at Colombo Sri Lanka
4th I don't remember
5th um sorry...

Monday, December 5, 2016

Life is kinda like a roller coaster


Life is kinda like a roller coaster
But a really slow one, that's true.
Well, maybe it goes faster sometimes,
But maybe it's different for you,
Maybe we
have different ambitions.
Maybe we have different roads...
Maybe we'll even go in
diffrent carts
but life is still kinda like a roller coaster
It'll be the same, even for you

Saturday, October 8, 2016

How Kids in 2016 feel like, and how they might think like in the future

My name is Jannah Ahamat, and I'm like eight.

And I honestly hate it when my parents tell me, "When I was younger, I used to-" Blah blah blah. I honestly don't like getting a sappy heart. And when I do, well it's really- I HATE IT. Kids these days care about, umm, Oh yea, the SAMSUNG GALAXY S 7. Yeah. And I really wonder why you tell me these things mommy,I mean, no offense, but I honestly don't really care about things like this. I'll give you an example.

Me: Mommy, I want to watch on youtube!!!
Mommy: Uh, no.
Me; But whhhyyyyy???
Mommy: Well, do you think I had youtube and ipad and netflix and computer and internet?
Me: Well no bu-
Mommy: When I was younger, I would go and see actual reality INSEAD!!!!!
Me: (Thinking) Well, maybe because it's 2016 and we have video broadcasts Mommy!! (Talking) Oh my God Mommy!  WHY- not in additude or anything- is your childhood relevant right now?
Mommy: ...


Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Smoother mornings

I have to shout at my kids in the mornings to get ready but here's a quick tip. Talk to him at bed time about his morning routine. When you wake up, recall the previous night's discussion. Have a competition with him to get ready. Tell him, you will win and get a nice reward for being super fast. You may have to have ice cream alone a couple of times to let it sink in. lol. Keep reminding him every day about how he is growing up and needs to take care of you. Give him little easy chores to do like pairing up his socks from the laundry or making his bed. Talk to him about his after school routine in the morning on the way to school. Keep reminding him that after homework he can have fun and play with the things he likes. Be sure to keep your promises. Its still September and all kids and parents haven't fully recovered from Summe